There is a phrase that I absolutely despise for many reasons. It’s all to do with people being unnecessarily hard on themselves (something that annoys me to no end). I hate when people say that they’ve gone backwards when it comes to their personal progress.
What a toxic mind-set it is to believe that we can go backwards. Because there is no backwards in life. And that’s an undeniable fact.
It’s true that sometimes we can get worse or our progress can be hindered, but I really don’t believe that we should label that as going backwards.
Because we’re constantly going forwards. Always. We improve ourselves and move on from heart ache and come to realisations and make peace with aspects of our lives. Just because your current chapter looks somewhat similar to a past one, does not mean that you’re back in that same position.
Envisioning ourselves jumping back to a time that we didn’t really enjoy can actually be really psychologically damaging.
We are constantly developing, constantly changing and constantly moving on.
So, to me, when people say something along the lines of “I’m back where I started,” all I hear is them refusing to recognise the developments that they have made.
You may wonder why I’m worrying so much about other people and you’d probably be right to. But I hate to see a person putting themselves down unnecessarily. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not losing sleep over it or anything, it’s just something that I feel strongly about.
We should be proud of ourselves and our progress. Proud of our achievements, big or small. Proud of the steps we’ve taken to get where we are today, even if that’s not where we’ve envisioned ourselves to be.
Read my essay about the toxicity of the word if here.
Watch my eating disorder (in detail) below: