I’m making this video because I don’t think there’s that much out there on this topic, especially in Ireland. I only began my medical transition a month ago, but technically, I’ve been transitioning for longer than that. This video may apply to trans girls a little bit more than boys and I’m sorry for that, but I can only speak from my point of view.
So if you’ve realised that you’re transgender, you’ve probably also realised that it’s going to take a lot of time before you can transition fully. For the majority of people it’s around five years. I was really impatient at the beginning and I was thinking, “well that’s what it’s like for most people but I’m in a hurry and I’m going to fast track this transition.” Unfortunately that is not how it works.
Saying that, you should begin immediately. I know it’s not easy but the biggest thing that I can stress is to just get on with it. Tell your family, tell your friends, tell your doctor. Life is way too short already and the longer you wait to begin all of this, the more time it’s going to take.
Your first port of call is your GP. Tell them what’s going on and they can refer you to the right place. This is the thing that takes time. You will have to wait for appointments and referrals and for people to get back to you. I wish it wasn’t the case but it is.
While you’re sitting around waiting for that there are other things that you can do. Start shopping for a new wardrobe. Look into different methods of hair removal. Look into voice training lessons if that’s something you want. Research all of the options that you have in your area and use them. It will be a lot less frustrating if you feel like you’re actually getting on with something.
Unfortunately, the online resources in Ireland for a transgender person are minimal. But this is improving every day. What I would recommend is attending a support group. Now I’ve never personally attended a support group because that’s something I’ve been privileged enough not to need. But my parents did and the information they’ve gotten from that group has been so priceless.
So to sum up, my advice is to be open with the people around you and with your doctor. Start doing little things to aid you in your transition. Research everything you can find that will help you. And get someone who’s close to you into that support group if at all possible.
Most importantly, do what you want to do. Don’t do something just because people expect you to or because other trans people do it. This is your personal road to walk and you should be following your own unique preferences and instincts. And don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
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