Now that I’ve made my ebook “Who Cares? Life for an Irish Transgender Teen” free to the public (you can download the full thing here), I’ve decided to publish the chapters here on my website. Below is a chapter from this book which was published in April 2016.
There’s no denying that the world has changed an awful lot over time. Sometimes it’s unclear whether we should be grateful for all of this change or not. But as much as the world changes, it’s very apparent that there are sections of society that continue to not make sense and that refuse to change.
One of the things that doesn’t make sense to me is the whole secretiveness about sex that continues to go on. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t particularly enjoy talking about sex. There’s a part of me that’s uncomfortable while people talk to me about masturbation or about their sex life, but I’m trying to overcome this. Here’s a little surprising fact about sex for you: MOST OF US HAVE SEX AND MOST OF US MASTURBATE. It’s not weird, impure or disgusting, no matter who it’s between. I’m not saying that we should all start telling the person beside us on the bus how we’re on our way home from a one-night-stand. Or that we should go into detail about how often we masturbate over a cup of coffee with our friends. But I do think that if you want to talk about it, you should be able to without people frowning, shuddering or shutting you down. We aren’t saintly people who only grit their teeth and force themselves to have sex when they wish to naturally conceive a child. We are modern, self-assured human beings who have sex for many different reasons, the main one being pleasure. This is okay. Who cares?
It also astounds me how people hate celebrities that show their naked bodies in magazines. What did you think they looked like under their clothes? Are we supposed to hide our bodies in shame? Do you feel the same way when men shed their clothes or is it only women? They are really not harming anyone. Getting naked for the public eye is a brave decision but most importantly, it’s the decision of an individual. So leave them alone. We need to release this idea that the decision of anyone to do something harmless like this is free to be criticised. If you want something to give out about, there are plenty of injustices occurring on a daily basis that you could spend your whole life worrying about. Just because it’s not a choice that you would ever make doesn’t mean it’s wrong or that you have to give out about it.
The world of fashion and of beauty could be considered flawed. Personally, I’m not concerned about photo-shop in fashion pictures. Fashion is art and artists look for perfection. This isn’t right, because life isn’t perfect, but it’s just the case. It doesn’t bother me because I don’t compare myself to those in magazines and online. I understand that the pictures have been staged and photo-shopped. I put filters on my own pictures and mess with the lighting. The picture on the cover of this book is slightly photo-shopped. That’s life. We all just want to look as beautiful as possible. The bigger concern, to me, is a lack of diversity that often occurs in photo-shoots. White, skinny models are used way too often which is so wrong because that is not by any means the definition of beauty.
There are many other topics that I could outline here relating to the modern world but I will not. People spend way too much time scrutinising today’s world and pointing out its flaws. I will not engage in that. I adore this world. I adore this period of time. I adore today’s people (for the most part). This world is beautiful. All you have to do is look for the beauty that hides in plain sight.
Read my metaphor for gender here.
Watch my naked shoot below: